Leading by Example

Leading by Example: Connected Parenting through Behavior Modeling 

As parents, we hold a profound responsibility to shape the future of our children. While offering guidance and wisdom is essential, there's a hidden gem in parenting that often speaks louder than words: modeling the behavior we want to see in our children.

How many of us have ever been frustrated with a child's messy room, when our own may be a mess?   

Or hoping that a child will want to participate in an activity that perhaps we have no desire to participate in ourselves? 

Children are like sponges, absorbing everything around them, especially the behavior exhibited by their parents or guardians. From a very young age, they observe and imitate our actions, attitudes, and reactions. Actions often leave a deeper imprint than words. Children are more likely to internalize behaviors they observe consistently. When parents model positive behavior, these patterns tend to stay with children throughout their lives.

Here are some ways that we can "parent", simply with leading by example:

1. Communication and Respect
Modeling respectful communication sets the tone for how children interact with others. By speaking to others with kindness and listening attentively, parents teach children the value of effective communication.

2. Kindness and Empathy
Demonstrating kindness and empathy towards others, whether it's a family member, a friend, or a stranger, fosters a sense of compassion in children. They learn that small acts of kindness can have a profound impact on someone's day.

3. Responsibility and Accountability
This one is really important. When parents take responsibility for their actions and decisions, children understand the importance of being accountable for their own choices. This behavior modeling helps them develop a strong sense of responsibility and integrity.

4. Patience and Problem-Solving
In moments of stress or challenges, showcasing patience and problem-solving skills teaches children how to handle difficulties with grace and determination. They learn that finding solutions requires patience and a positive attitude.

5. Work-Life Balance
We all know how tricky this one can be. By maintaining a healthy work-life balance, parents demonstrate the significance of self-care and spending quality time with loved ones. Children grasp the idea that success should be balanced with personal well-being and nurturing relationships.

Some KEY words below: 

1. Trust: When a child sees you consistently performing certain behaviors, they learn to trust that this is the right way. 

2. Consistency: We MUST be consistent! When children see that their parents practice what they say, they feel more confident in seeking guidance and support.

3. Emotional Intelligence: Exhibiting emotional intelligence, such as managing emotions and showing empathy, helps children understand their own feelings and the emotions of others. This skill enhances their relationships and overall emotional well-being.

4. Positivity: A household where positive behavior is modeled (vs. punitive behavior) fosters a nurturing environment that encourages open communication and personal growth. Children feel safe to express themselves and learn from their mistakes.

5. Gratitude: When we as parents practice expressing gratitude often, our children learn to see things through a grateful lens. This can have life-lasting impacts and set the tone for the way they view the world. In my book for kids on gratitude, titled Grumpy or Grateful, one of the main characters learns from a family member to see the world with the glass half-full. One of the best ways for children to learn about gratitude is to watch others express it in all sorts of situations. 

6. Showing Up:  Showing up for our children means to actively be present, engaged and supportive in their lives. Whether that is attending their sports events, or being in the moment when you are with them. It involves providing emotional support, being there for important moments, and being a positive role model. When you model this for them, they feel valued, and respected, and in turn they will be the same to you and others.

Parenting through behavior modeling is a powerful tool that shapes the core values and character of our children. By embodying the qualities and behaviors we want to see in them, we equip them with the skills and attitudes necessary to navigate life's challenges with resilience, empathy, and integrity. As parents, let us remember that our actions hold the potential to inspire our children to become compassionate, responsible, and socially conscious individuals who contribute positively to the world.