How Gratitude fosters Empathy, Kindness, and Resilience

As parents and educators, we often focus on teaching our children academic skills and knowledge. However, equally important, if not more so, is the development of character. Character education is about fostering values, virtues, and habits that contribute to the well-being of individuals and society. Gratitude is a crucial aspect of character education that can help children develop empathy, kindness, and resilience.

What is Gratitude? 

Gratitude is the act of recognizing and appreciating the good things in one’s life. It involves acknowledging the contributions of others, recognizing the value of one’s own efforts, and feeling thankful for the experiences and opportunities that have come one’s way. It is a powerful emotion that can have a positive impact on mental health, social relationships, and overall well-being.


Research shows

Research has shown that gratitude can enhance empathy, kindness, and resilience. 

Empathy: When children learn to appreciate the kindness and generosity of others, they become more sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. They learn to look beyond themselves and develop a sense of connectedness with those around them. Grateful children are more likely to engage in pro-social behavior, such as sharing, helping, and cooperating with others.

Kindness: When children feel grateful for the kindness of others, they are more likely to reciprocate with kindness of their own. They learn that their actions have an impact on others and that they can make a positive difference in the world. Grateful children are more likely to engage in acts of kindness and compassion towards others, which can contribute to a more positive and harmonious social environment.

Resilience: Gratitude can help children develop resilience by helping them focus on the positive aspects of their experiences, rather than dwelling on the negative. When children learn to appreciate the good things in their lives, they develop a more positive outlook and are better able to cope with stress and adversity. Grateful children are more likely to be optimistic, hopeful, and confident in their abilities to overcome challenges and achieve their goals.

What we can do:

Here are some strategies that parents and educators can use to help foster gratitude in children:

Model gratitude: Children learn by example, so it is important for adults to model gratitude in their own behavior. When parents and teachers express gratitude for the efforts and contributions of others, children learn to do the same.

Encourage thank-you notes: I love this one! Even though we live in a digital aged world, encouraging children to write thank-you notes for gifts, acts of kindness, and other positive experiences helps them develop gratitude and reinforces the importance of acknowledging the contributions of others.

Practice gratitude rituals: Developing gratitude rituals, such as keeping a gratitude journal, or sharing gratitude moments at the end of the day, can help children cultivate a habit of focusing on the positive aspects of their lives.

Volunteer together: Engaging in volunteer work as a family or classroom community can help children develop empathy and gratitude by providing opportunities to see firsthand the positive impact of their actions on others.

Focus on the good: When children encounter setbacks or challenges, it can be helpful to focus on the positive aspects of the situation rather than dwelling on the negative. Encouraging children to find something to be grateful for, even in difficult situations, can help them develop resilience and a more positive outlook.

By teaching and modeling gratitude, parents and educators can help children develop a habit of gratitude that will benefit them throughout their lives.

Check out the book that Bob Sornson and I wrote titled, “Grumpy or Grateful: Kids Learning about Gratitude”, which can be found anywhere books are sold!